{"id":3138,"date":"2015-12-14T18:03:07","date_gmt":"2015-12-14T18:03:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.zoha-islands.com\/?p=3138"},"modified":"2015-12-14T18:03:07","modified_gmt":"2015-12-14T18:03:07","slug":"pursuing-healthy-relationships-virtually","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/zoha-islands.com\/blog\/pursuing-healthy-relationships-virtually\/","title":{"rendered":"Pursuing Healthy Relationships, Virtually."},"content":{"rendered":"

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One thing that eventually impacts most of us in Second Life is the relationship experience. Now, this is a very broad subject, since this can mean anything to anyone. A relationship in Second Life could be one that is exclusively in Second Life with no intention of it carrying out in the real world to one that can transition to the real world or had originated there (and is an extension of it). While some don\u2019t bother with dating in Second Life at all, quite a lot of folks do at some point. <\/p>\n

I\u2019ve dated as a \u201crelationship in Second Life that I don\u2019t intend to carry into real life\u201d individual a couple of times. While there were a lot of highs, there were a few key points that I noticed are worth mentioning. I could call these \u201cpro-tips\u201d, but these are really talking points that are relevant for any healthy relationship or friendship. <\/p>\n

1)\tBe clear about what you want. Whether you just want it to be confined to Second Life, a mix of both or want someone you can also date in real life, you need to communicate that in the beginning. If you\u2019re not sure but you\u2019re open-minded, communicate that too. It\u2019s best to set those expectations ahead of time, especially if you might be dating someone that will end up wanting the opposite of what you want. In one case, I was dating someone that wanted real life when I had expressed that I only wanted a relationship in Second Life. That obviously led to a lot of tension as we got closer, and ultimately our undoing. <\/p>\n

2)\tBe honest about who you are. This is a biggie. While some may argue that you shouldn\u2019t have to be honest about this if you don\u2019t intend to date outside of Second Life, this does matter. This also includes if you\u2019re married, your gender, your identity etc. What I mean by \u201cidentity\u201d is that if you bother to share real life pictures of yourself, make sure that you\u2019re not using someone else\u2019s pictures. I knew someone at one stage that used someone else\u2019s picture for two years until someone bothered to Google Image Search it. That pretty much unraveled every friendship and relationship she had at that point, because then everyone wondered what else they were misled on. Also, if you are one gender and portray another in Second Life, if someone is worth your time, they\u2019ll accept it. I spent almost two years with someone that never admitted they were really female in their physical form because they assumed I would run. Had they been honest, it wouldn\u2019t have mattered to me. <\/p>\n

3)\tBe confident with yourself. And I don\u2019t mean be filled with ego and pride, but be the best you can be. One huge mistake many people make in either world is that they feel bored and lonely or unhappy with whom they are with already and feel that reaching out to someone else and getting attached to them will fill the void(s). This is never healthy nor productive, and you\u2019re not going to enjoy how it ends up once it catches up to you. You need to find your own happiness before you can find happiness with someone else. One big suggestion here is finding something that you find interesting to invest a bit of time in, in Second Life, as well as making sure you\u2019re in a good place mentally and emotionally in real life. A relationship is never a solution to a problem. <\/p>\n

With those 3 key things, you\u2019ll have much better odds of a healthy and happy outcome that suits your needs. Of course, as with all \u201cships\u201d, communication is super important. But the common denominator is that you should be honest with yourself and others, no matter what your needs and wants are. If you start with that, your foundation will be much more solid. <\/p>\n

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